Fight for your dreams or lose yourself

This week a lot of things have been going through my mind. Mostly about the choices we make in life. Do we choose life or death? Do we choose to believe all the negative thoughts and public opinion on people like us? Or do we choose to believe who we truly are, who we are capable of becoming? Do we give up on our dreams just because we believe what could be the worst case scenario.
Recently i subscribed to Sandi Krakowski´s email list. One email really caught my attention. In her email she asks:

“How many times have you asked yourself, What if it does work?”

She talks about how humans have a tendency to prepare for failure, because we try to protect ourselves from disappointment and to avoid expecting to much out of our lives. This makes me think of another quote:

“Nothing ventured, nothing gained”

Its so easy to prepare for failure. We tell ourselves that its only logical to prepare for if things go wrong or we might be off worse than when we started. But ask yourself this:

“What if it works? What if my dream come true?”

Are we gonna fight for what we want, even if we fail or are we just gonna give up before we ever tried.

I have been unemployed for 3 years – I know how it feels like when you at the same time are giving up and still trying to fight. I never understood “Giving up”. Let me explain.
My life hasn’t always been easy. From early on learned how to fight. At my confirmation I was given a text from a psalm. It basically said:

“Fight for all that you have dear, die if you have to”

That has been like a prophetic word over my life. I was born a fighter. Learned that if I don’t fight, I wont succeed. I’ve been blessed with some good people in my life who believed in me, who pushed me to fight for my dreams. We always think that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence until we get over there and look a bit closer. I’m not perfect. I have been struck down, fallen on many occasions. But every time I pulled myself up. Most of the time with help from friends. Never underestimate the importance of friendship. You might be strong, but we are only as strong as the people we surround ourselves with. No man´s an Island! If we try to walk through life thinking we don’t need nobody else, we´re wrong. That is not living, that is survival. We may survive for a bit, but the longer we choose to live without friends the more we lose ourselves.

So bottom line – You don’t know if you will get to live your dream if you never tried. Do what you have to. Spread the word. Who knows whats gonna happen. Use every resources – your friends, the internet, anybody in your network – But do it. Try to make it happen. What if you succeed. What if you get to live your dream or what if you end up somewhere you never dream of, but that is way better than what you ever could have dreamed of. So tell me, what´s your dream?


Do I have something to say?

So do I really have something to say. If you have read my profile, you already have an idea of what i wanna talk about and then you already know, that YES I have something to say. But in a digital world, how do you choose to say it.


On twitter I´m following a young guy, just in the beginning of his carrier and a woman, who already has HUGE success and their approach to how you say stuff are really different. So it´s not so much on what i wanna say, but how do i wanna say it. Through social media(SoMe) we can´t see the facial expression, the sound of ones voice nor can´t we always tell what motive is behind a statement. Some people on twitter think Im really boring and has no sense of humor and some, luckily the ones I call friends, think I have a great sense of humor and that I from time to time knock people out the park by totally nailing a comment in a conversation. A friend told me, that SoMe is all about perception, and it is. SoMe is social and it´s conversations. In communication, only 5% of our communication is the actual words we choose. For that reason alone, I sometimes restrict myself from saying something on Twitter, cause I can´t be sure how people will perceive it. It´s like coding in C++. You have a 1000 ways to shoot yourself in the foot. So my statement here is that since we are living in a digital world, where SoMe has change the way we communicate(cause we talk more on Twitter, Facebook and other platforms, rather than calling or sending a letter. Remember the time where we used to have Pen Pals 🙂 ) We need to be more considered of how our message is perceived. Off course some people don´t care. Feel free to speak your mind, but when others come up to you on SoMe with a different opinion be careful of how you choose to respond. There are so many negative attitudes on SoMe. Just because you don´t agree with another person doesn’t mean that it´s okay to aggressively attack that person. It is so easy to hide behind the screen. Many people say things on Twitter, Facebook, You Tube or even WOW, that they would never say face to face. What do YOU have to say?